First Year Guide for Parents & Families

Before Classes Begin

Develop a budget with your student

Have a frank conversation about your student's budget for the year. Setting a plan will better direct smart financial practices. If this is not one of your strong points, encourage your student to meet with a staff member at Student Financial Services when they arrive on campus. Things to consider:

  • Determine how much your student will contribute to their education.
  • Decide on how the bills are going to get paid (tuition, health insurance, rent, phone, etc). Your student's university bill will appear on their RAMweb account. If you are assisting with payment, make sure they keep you up-to-date on due dates.
  • Encourage your student to check their RAMweb account and email frequently for important information (at least twice a week). The RAMweb and email are the main venue of communication for the university.
  • Encourage your student to establish a checking account, if they do not have one already. Does your student know how to write a check or use their online banking function? Do they know how to monitor their account?
  • Talk with your student about credit cards. They will most likely receive offers for credit cards with very high interest rates. Consider setting limits if your student is using a card that you provide and spell out your expectations about using it. Excessive credit card debt can be a large stressor for students.
  • Educate your student about ways to improve their financial literacy, like Education Cents.
Maintaining a healthy lifestyle

At Colorado State, your student's well-being is of our utmost concern. Staying healthy can sometimes be challenging for busy college students. It is known that stress is the number one health factor impacting academic success. Knowing stress will likely be something your student will deal with, you can:

  • Discuss the importance of sleep, healthy eating and physical activity in managing their stress level in college. Knowing and applying sound health habits positively impacts mental and physical health and our ability to ward off illness.
  • Express the importance of time management and planning in managing stress, to include financial planning.
  • Encourage your student to take time out of their busy schedules to de-stress and relax. This can actually help with productivity and make the college experience more enjoyable.
  • Let them know that there are resources, like the CSU Health Services Health Education and Prevention Services, CSU Health Network Counseling Services and Campus Recreation available to help, if they need some guidance. Online stress management resources are also available to share.
Discuss boundaries and fitting in

New students often feel an amazing amount of independence during their first semester. You may find your student testing boundaries and exploring new beliefs and behaviors. Sometimes, however, they are unaware of the consequences of their decisions.

Talk openly with your student about attending parties, alcohol and drug use, sexual decisions, safety and peer pressure. Although these conversations can be tough, they are extremely important. Families have more influence than they realize when it comes to students making positive decisions about such life issues. Research shows that the impact of such discussions, just prior to starting college, leads to lower alcohol consumption during college students' first year. Further, these talks lower the risk that students will experience Check out the following resources:

Feeling under the weather

Unfortunately, there may be times when your student is not feeling well or needs assistance. Know that Colorado State has medical, counseling and health education and prevention services on campus through the CSU Health Network.

  • Student Health Fee vs. Student Health Insurance
    All students taking six or more resident instruction credit hours pay the health fee and may access care at the CSU Health Network. (Students taking fewer than six credits, and spouses, partners, and children of students, may choose to pay the health fee or pay fees for services.) The fee allows unlimited office visits with primary care medical and psychiatric providers, and subsidizes medical services (such as x-ray, lab, and pharmacy) so they can be provided to students at or below market rates. Education and Prevention programs and services (such as Alcohol Edu/Haven: Sexual Assaul Prevention) are included in this fee. The counseling fee which is also paid bystudents taking six or more credit hours covers an initial consultation, assessment, individual and group counseling, and emergency services. Some specialty programs (DAY and learning assistance) have additional fees for services, and extended counseling services (more than five sessions per semester) cost a nominal fee. Students may have CSU Health Network charges billed to their student account or pay by MasterCard, Visa, check, or cash.
  • Student Health Insurance
    Personal health insurance is recommended in order to cover the services not offered on campus, such as hospitalization, emergency room services, or coverage for major illness or injury. An optional CSU Student Health Insurance Plan is available CSU students. It works in conjunction with student fee-funded services by offering additional coverage for services in the Health Network, as well as providing insurance for care received away from campus. Call the CSU Health Network Insurance office at (970) 491-5118 if you would like to compare benefits or get additional information.
  • Note about medical records
    In order to provide the best continuity of care, it is recommended that students enter information about their health history in the CSU Health Network Portal. This will allow providers to give the best care to students starting with their very first visits. This is especially important if your student has a chronic or recurrent condition, treatment in process for an illness or injury, or any other need for continuity and communication between medical providers and counselors, copies of records should be brought to their first visit.
  • Note about independence and confidentiality issues
    Medical consent and confidentiality are areas that can cause concern and friction between parents and family members of adult students (18 and older) and healthcare providers. For effective counseling, medical and health education and prevention support to occur, CSU Health Network offers students a safe and confidential atmosphere. It is against the law to break this code of confidentiality. The only exceptions are when there is a situation of imminent, life-threatening harm to self or others, or if the student signs a release of information.

    CSU Health Network encourages parents and families to consult with the CSU Health Network staff regarding concerns they may have about their student. Although our staff cannot disclose whether your student is using our services, we can receive information and utilize it as appropriate. Although this may be hard to accept at times, confidentiality improves communications with providers and supports students as they develop into interdependent adults.
Getting key immunizations

Measles, Mumps, and Rubella (MMR) - The State of Colorado requires all universities with on-campus housing to have each student provide proof of two Measles, Mumps, and Rubella (MMR) shots. The first one must have been given on or after their first birthday. To verify that your student has this immunization, immunizations records can be found at your student's high school, doctor's office, previous college, or in your personal records (it must have dates and signatures). If your student doesn't have records, the CSU Health Network offers the Measles, Mumps, and Rubella (MMR) shot. (It will not hurt your student to receive an additional MMR shot if they have not had one within the past 30 days.) They also have the legal right to sign an exemption so they don't have to receive an MMR shot.

Meningitis and the Meningococcal Vaccine - Scientific evidence suggests that college students living in residence halls are at a modestly increased risk of contracting meningococcal disease. Meningococcal disease is a potentially life-threatening bacterial infection that can be passed person to person by oral secretions. It is estimated that 100-125 cases of meningococcal disease occur annually on college campuses in the U.S. A meningococcal vaccine is offered year-round by the CSU Health Network and also at Preview for new incoming first year students. All students and families should be aware of this new recommendation from the CDC: anyone who received the meningococcal vaccination prior to their 16th birthday should receive a booster dose. (Anyone who received their first dose after age 16 does not need a booster.)

For detailed information about these and other immunizations, check out Centers for Disease Control and Prevention Vaccines and Immunizations.

Attend Preview or Next Step orientation with your student

You will learn about many of the resources that Colorado State offers its students. This information will prove useful in supporting your student throughout their first year. Advise your student to check their RamWeb RAMweb and email accounts frequently for important information. RAMwamWeb is the main venue of communication for CSU.

 

During Their First Month

They may be overwhelmed

Understand that in their conversations with you, they may talk about their adjustment to their academic load, expectations of college professors, living with a roommate and new freedoms. Work to listen before passing judgment or trying to "fix" their problems. Ask them open-ended questions and encourage them to seek support on campus. If college classes overwhelm them, mention the need to talk with their professor during their office hours and with their academic advisor. If they are struggling to find a common bond with their roommate, make sure they are sharing those concerns with their roommate. Encourage talking with their Resident Assistant, Assistant Resident Director, or their Resident Director about their concerns.

Let them know you care

With all of the newness, many students feel homesick, even if they are still living at home. Make sure to stay in communication with your student; send e-mails, call, send care packages and show your interest. Even if they do not always respond, they enjoy knowing that you care.

Respect their privacy

Call ahead before showing up to their new residence. Make sure to continue sharing news of events occurring in the family so they still feel connected. If your student is commuting, have a family dinner night or a message board where they can stay in touch with you. Counseling is available on campus; encourage your student to visit with a counselor if they are having a tough time adjusting to the campus environment.

Campus involvement is key

Encourage your student to get involved. This is an excellent way for them to feel connected. During the first few weeks on campus, they will have opportunities to learn about involvement opportunities through multiple venues. Ask them about which clubs and organizations they are thinking of joining. Research shows that students who get involved graduate at a higher rate and often do better academically.

Ask them about their classes

In each class, students will receive a syllabus which outlines the expectations, assignments and test dates for the semester. Encourage your student to keep a calendar/planner and map out how and when they are going to complete assignments, find time to study, be involved in various activities. Make sure they weave in some down time to stay balanced. Discuss the importance of becoming part of class study groups and chatting with upperclassmen about strategies for success. Students should plan ahead - procrastination will stress them out and negatively affect their academic performance.

Encourage them to visit their professors

Each professor has set office hours. This is a great time for your student to ask questions. If your student has another commitment during scheduled office hours, encourage him or her to contact the professor for an appointment.

Encourage them to meet with their academic advisor

Students need to connect regularly with their academic advisor. Your student should find out where their office is and what their office hours are, and should visit early in the semester to begin to build a relationship. This person will be instrumental in keeping them on track towards graduation.

Revisit time management strategies

Many students will try to balance a full load of classes with work, family commitments, involvement opportunities and a social life. There are always a plethora of other things to do besides study. Again, encourage your student to keep a calendar/planner and map out time for classes, studying, involvement and de-stressing time for themselves.

Discuss FERPA

The Family Education Rights and Privacy Act of 1974 (also known as the Buckley Amendment) is a federal law that limits the amount of information that can be released about students to people outside the University without students' specific written permission.

To comply with FERPA, follow the guidelines that are practiced at Colorado State University. There are release forms students can fill out to give family members partial or full access to their records. Many families find that they do not need to sign a release statement because they are able to talk with each other about grades, finances, etc. Deciding whether or not to sign the release forms will be something you and your student will need to discuss.

 

Mid-semester

By now your student has experienced their first tests/papers for each of their classes. Did they feel prepared? Have they balanced their time and been able to study? If they feel they did not do well, this is a good time to recommend that they seek help. There are many resources on our campus to help students academically. The Center for Advising and Student Achievement is an excellent resource to help students succeed in the classroom. Encourage your student to make an appointment.

Your student should also be setting into the semester and beginning to feel more at home. Again, if you get a sense that they may be struggling or need someone to talk to, encourage them to visit CSU Health Network Counseling Services on campus.

 

End of Semester

Understand your student's changing relationship

Your student may find it challenging to connect with high school friends who are attending another college or have gone on to the work force. They may not find the same things in common anymore. Allow your student to voice their frustrations and understand this is part of the transition.

Financial Aid

Students will be re-applying for financial aid in the spring for the following academic year. Make sure they stay on top of the deadlines. Students should submit the Free Application for Federal Student Aid (FAFSA) as soon as possible after March 1. Student Financial Services can help, if you have questions.

Discuss their future plans and options

Discuss their future plans and options. Many students are still not aware of what they want to major in. Encourage them to meet with their academic advisor again and to stop by the Career Center to discuss career exploration. It is completely normal for students to still be undeclared at the end of their first-year, but it is important that they are using campus resources to focus on finding a major.

 

Throughout the First Year

Your student needs you. Encourage them to communicate with you about their new life. You have been important and will continue to be important to them. Keep the door open. Sometimes the conversations may be hard to hear, as they are further exploring their values and beliefs. Use Students as Emerging Adults: A Transitions Guide for Parents & Families to ask open-ended questions to support your student and refrain from judgment. Access the resources offered to you at orientation and encourage your student to seek the resources they need to be successful.

 

High School vs. College

Student/Teacher Contact

High School - Students have multiple opportunities to ask their teacher's questions outside of class. Teachers are more diligent about keeping students up-to-date on assignments.

College - Professors set up a few office hours per week. They do not remind students of work, but distribute a course syllabus at the beginning of the semester to inform students of important dates and expectations.

Family Access to Student Grades

High School - Families can access grades and progress reports on-line or schedule meetings with teachers.

College - FERPA regulations will not allow faculty members to discuss a student's progress with a family member unless a student has given that family member access to their records.

Attendance in Class

High School - Attendance is mandatory and there are strict penalties for missing class.

College - There will be classes where attendance is taken and others where the professor does not take attendance. It is the student's responsibility to attend class and stay on top of assignments.

Freedom

High School - Students have limited freedom. Family members have much more control over the decisions a student makes.

College - Students have much more freedom and the decisions they make can have serious consequences.

Distractions

High School - Students have a much more controlled schedule and their family environment can help them stay on track.

College - There are many opportunities to be distracted. Time management and learning to balance one's commitments becomes even more important.

Value Judgements

High School - Students tend to follow their families' values.

College - Students have the opportunity to interact with others from different backgrounds and value bases. Their value system may change.

Source: University of Nevada-Reno Family Handbook

 

Suggested Reading List for Parents & Families

The following is a list of a few of the plethora of books written on the college student/family transition process. For a more comprehensive list, research your local library, bookstore or look on-line. Colorado State does not recommend or endorse any of the following books or any of their contents.

  • Don't Tell Me What to Do, Just Send Money: The Essential Parenting Guide to the College Years
    Helen E. Johnson and Christine Schelhas-Miller (2000)
  • Emerging Adulthood: The Winding Road from Late Teens through the Twenties
    Jeffrey Jensen Arnett (2004)
  • Empty Nest...Full Heart: The Journey from Home to College
    Andrea Van Steenhouse (2002)
  • The Healthy Student-A Parent's Guide to Preparing Teens for the College Years
    Dr. Lawrence Neinstein and Helen Johnson (2008)
  • Helping Your First-Year College Student Succeed: A Guide for Parents
    Richard H. Mullendore (2000, out of print, limited availability)
  • Let the Journey Begin: A Parent's Monthly Guide to the College Experience
    Jacqueline MacKay and Wanda Ingram (2001)
  • Letting Go: A Parents' Guide to Understanding the College Years, 4 th Ed.
    Karen Levin Coburn and Madge Lawrence Treeger (2003)
  • You're on Your Own (But I'm Here if You Need Me): Mentoring your Child During the College Years
    Marjorie Savage (2003)